Have you and your spouse decided that you want to try mediation for your divorce? One of the first things you will have to agree on is who the mediator will be. Below are some things to look for when you choose a mediator who can successfully guide both of you through the mediation process.
Child custody, parenting time, visitation and any other term related to how much time you spend with your child after a divorce could leave you feeling a bit confused. The courts, however, only care about one thing, really. That is, what is in the best interests of the child. How is this determined?
Co-parenting with your ex during or after a divorce is challenging even under the best of circumstances. Even if you and your ex have a cordial and respectful relationship, you're not going to agree on all parenting decisions. You probably didn't even when you were happily married. When you factor two different homes, new boyfriends or girlfriends, new financial challenges and some residual anger or resentment into the mix, those differences can become more significant.
Child custody issues are some of the most contentious matters in a divorce. While not the norm anymore, mothers were usually given primary custody in the past. For one woman, having her dad around part-time was better than having no dad at all, although it took her several years to realize that. She said that she realizes that some people won't agree with her analysis, but that is okay with her.
Parenting isn't an easy job when there are two parents in the home. It's even more difficult when there's two homes with a parent in each. When your child wants to live with your ex, what do you do?
Parental alienation can be terrible both for the child and for the parent who is being alienated. However, this can sometimes happen unintentionally, so it's important for parents to know what causes it. Behaviors to avoid include:
Getting a divorce is not something most people consider lightly. This is especially true when children are involved. There are many studies that show how damaging divorce can be to children if the parents are not careful. Some parents choose to stay together "for the sake of the kids." However, that's not the choice for everyone.
One of the great challenges after divorce is learning to co-parent effectively. Unfortunately, there are some real problems that can occur when one parent is a "gopher" parent. In other words, the parent conveniently appears and disappears as he or she wants to.
Surely there are fewer scarier feelings than when you realize your ex-spouse has left the country with your child. You may feel as though there is no one to help you, including local law enforcement. Whom do you turn to?
If you're contemplating a divorce and you have children, chances are you have worried about how they will deal with it. You've heard the stories about one parent making the children hate the other parent with their remarks -- you might have even made remarks quite like those. One woman, who is currently studying to become a marriage and family therapist, was 8 when her parents divorced. Here's what she took away from that day on: