Even though we are attorneys who are committed to the law and to the preservation of family, we believe that the legal aspects of child custody can complicate matters in some cases. This does not mean we think that parents in the midst of child custody proceedings should not seek legal assistance. On the contrary, we believe attorney representation protects parents and children alike in all matters related to divorce.
Any life circumstance handled by way of the legal system can alter the perspective of all involved parties. For example, viewing child custody decisions through a “legal lens” could take the focus away from what is most important, which is the children. Parents may become distracted and lose sight of what meets the best interests of their kids. Instead, the issue becomes a matter of which parent wins and which parent loses.
In divorce cases, the only potential losers are the children and no one wants to see that happen. We think that altering your perspective during legal proceedings that involve children can help alleviate potential problems. Try not to think of it as a win or lose court case. Rather look at child custody as a means to develop an effective parenting plan.
Taking it a step further, you might even try viewing child custody proceedings as a way to become an even better parent than you were before your divorce. At the same time, we know that it is not as simple as it sounds. This is especially so when one or both parents feel hostile or combative towards one another.
In the end, we still believe that if even just one parent tries to view these legal matters in a more positive, family-centered light it will benefit the children of divorce. Learn more about child custody issues in Connecticut by visiting us online.