Divorce is complicated. You don’t always know exactly what you want or what you should do. It can be hard, emotionally, and you may doubt it and second-guess yourself.

Sometimes, people assume that they’ll be 100% confident when they decide to end the marriage. They’ll know that they need to do it and that life will be better after the split.

You may find yourself feeling that way, especially if you have a big event that ends the relationship. Maybe you find out that your spouse was not faithful, and that’s just the end of the road for you.

However, many people have second thoughts. One woman felt doubtful and guilty and confused. She struggled to move on. She wasn’t sure what to do with herself. And she had been the one to ask for the divorce, not her ex. She still did not feel, immediately after the split, that she was 100% sure about it.

She worked through it in time. She learned a lot about herself. She got used to being single, even though she was younger than she ever assumed she’d be after a divorce.

But it did take time. It is important for all people who are considering divorce to understand that. You don’t want to have expectations for the end of the marriage that aren’t based in reality, or they can lead you to make mistakes or deal with emotional issues you shouldn’t have to deal with.

At the same time, it’s important to understand all of the legal steps you’ll need to take from the moment you decide to file for divorce until the process is finalized.