All you want is for your divorce to go smoothly. You don’t want to spend a long time in court, you don’t want to run into any serious issues and you don’t want to stay married any longer than you have to. 

As you likely know, though, this type of smooth transition from married to single does not always play out the way you’re hoping. People often overlook key components or even make mistakes that make divorce harder than it has to be. To help you avoid this outcome, here are six important tips:

  1. Try to work together. If you and your spouse can compromise and work toward a common goal, it makes things easier.
  2. Put your children first. Not only do you need to honor their feelings and their role in this, but putting the kids first is one of the easiest ways to create a common goal.
  3. Don’t make decisions based on how you feel. Many people complicate their own divorce proceedings because they’re angry with their ex.
  4. Remember that negotiating means giving up some of what you want. Pick the battles that are most important to you.
  5. If possible, live somewhere near your spouse — even after they become your ex. This is most important when you share custody of the kids.
  6. Create plans that are flexible. Remember that you can’t predict every part of life. Be ready for changes and take them on as they arise. 

As you move toward divorce, it is important to know about all of your legal options. Consider how they can best align with these six tips and make things go smoothly.