Sometimes, divorce feels like a shock. One spouse files without ever expressing dissatisfaction with the relationship. Other times, a divorce filing is the culmination of years of relationship stagnation.
Some people worry that others may judge them for initiating divorce proceedings and may want their spouses to file the initial documents. However, there are certain benefits that come from being the spouse to initiate the process.
Why does filing first tend to work out well for the spouse initiating the divorce?
Opportunity to prepare
People blindsided by a sudden filing often wait weeks or months to receive critical documents that they require for the divorce from a spouse. They may not have an opportunity to begin strategizing until they receive financial disclosures and other important records. People who take the initiative to file first can gather all the documentation they need well in advance.
Control over timing
Some people choose dates to file for divorce with the intent to cause emotional damage. They pick a spouse’s birthday or a wedding anniversary out of spite. Other times, they may file when the divorce is likely to cause extreme disruptions, such as right before one spouse must defend their dissertation.
Those who take the initiative to file can control the timeline for the divorce. There are other benefits of filing first, including an opportunity to redevelop relationships and make plans in advance for a softer landing.
Discussing your marital circumstances with a skilled legal team can help you prepare to file for divorce at the best time given their circumstances. Those who take control of the process may ultimately feel empowered by divorce instead of swept along by the process.
