You are probably used to making most of the decisions about your child’s upbringing. When you and your child’s other parent aren’t in a relationship, you will have to work with that parent to make these decisions. In some cases, who makes which decisions is covered in the child custody order.
If you are in the middle of a child custody process, you will have to decide if you are able to work with your ex to come up with the agreement. This doesn’t mean that you are going to work alone with your ex. Instead, you can work with a mediator to get through the issues at hand. The mediator can often work things out to where you and your ex never have to speak directly to each other if that is necessary.
You can work through all child custody issues through mediation. The key here is being able to work with your ex. You will have to go through the give and take with your ex. With this in mind, you should think about the points that you are going hold fast on and which ones you can negotiate on.
While mediation is often a faster and less costly option than going through a trial, it isn’t for everyone. If you and your ex can’t get along at all or if there was abuse in the relationship, mediation might not be appropriate. It is important that you think about these points when you are going through a child custody case so that you can think about how each one will affect your child as decisions about the future are made.
Source: FindLaw, “Child Custody Mediation FAQ,” accessed Dec. 29, 2016